Do You Leak When You Sneeze or Jump? Why Kegels Aren’t Working & How Christian Women Can Heal With Dignity

When Leaking Starts to Feel Like Your “New Normal”

If you leak when you sneeze, cough, laugh, jump, or run, you’ve probably wondered, “Is this just my new normal?” Maybe you've even quietly assumed something is wrong with your body—that your pelvic floor is “weak,” “broken,” or “not what it used to be.”

And because so many Christian women feel embarrassed to talk about it, the problem feels even heavier.

But here's the truth:
You are so not alone.
And you are absolutely not stuck.

In this conversation with Jen Lormand, co-founder of Tighten Your Tinkler, we unpack the real reason so many women still leak—even after doing Kegels for years—and how faith, science, and dignity can come together to restore real hope again.

This is not “just do more Kegels.”
This is clarity.
This is compassion.
This is a path forward.

Why So Many Women Still Leak (Even After Doing Kegels)

For years, most women were told one thing:
If you leak, do more Kegels.

But as Jen shared, thousands of women have done Kegels consistently and still struggle with leaking. Not because they’re doing something wrong—but because traditional advice rarely addresses what’s actually happening inside the core.

Pelvic floor dysfunction is more than a “muscle weakness” issue. It’s a whole-body system that can be affected by:

• Hormones

• Stress

• Posture

• Breathing patterns

• Core pressure

• Pregnancy and childbirth

• The way you lift, stand, move, walk, and even sit

So if Kegels haven’t worked for you, you’re not the problem.
The method was incomplete.

And once you understand the root cause, healing becomes so much clearer.

The Surprising Truth About Pelvic Floor Dysfunction

One of the most powerful moments in the episode was this:

“Pelvic floor issues are NOT your fault.”

Let that sit in your heart for a moment.

Your symptoms are not a sign of failure. They’re not a lack of discipline. They’re not because you “let your body go.” And they’re definitely not something God is disappointed in you for.

There are physical reasons leaking happens.
There are scientific reasons Kegels don’t always help.
There are real solutions that restore strength gently and safely.

This is why Jen is so passionate about educating women. When you understand your body, you can finally stop feeling ashamed and start taking confident steps toward healing.

How Your Hormones, Stress, and Posture Influence Your Pelvic Floor

Another key takeaway from the episode is that pelvic floor symptoms aren’t random. They’re deeply connected to the rest of your body.

For example:

Hormones

Pregnancy, postpartum, breastfeeding, perimenopause — each of these shifts affects tissue elasticity and pelvic floor support.

Stress

Your pelvic floor is directly connected to your nervous system.
Stress = tension, gripping, and dysfunctional breathing patterns.

Posture

If your ribs, pelvis, or spine are misaligned (which is incredibly common for moms), your pelvic floor can’t generate pressure or support correctly.

Breathing

How you inhale and exhale changes how much pressure is placed on your core. Most women have no idea they’re breathing in ways that make leaking worse.

None of these things are your fault.
All of these things can improve.
And the combination is exactly why Kegels alone don’t fix the root problem.

The Most Encouraging Part: Healing Is Absolutely Possible

Jen shared something that Christian women need to hear more often:

Your pelvic floor is not broken. It’s overwhelmed.

And just like any overwhelmed system, it can be supported, strengthened, and restored with the right approach. No shame. No pressure. No unrealistic expectations.

What Christian women need isn’t more fear or embarrassment.
They need dignity.
They need clarity.
They need hope.

And they deserve solutions that work with their body, not against it.

What Safe Strengthening Actually Looks Like

In the episode, you learn that real pelvic floor strengthening does not look like:

• Endless Kegels

• Squeezing your muscles all day

• Crunches or sit-ups

• High-impact workouts

• Pushing through pain

Instead, it looks like:

• Gentle, science-backed movements

• Breathing patterns that restore your core from the inside out

• Posture adjustments

• Releasing tension before activating

• Building strength progressively and safely

And the best part?
You can start healing at any age or stage.

Why Christian Women Don’t Get the Help They Deserve

This part of the conversation hit home:

“Most Christian women don’t get help because they assume leaking is their fault or their burden to carry quietly.”

But God is not calling you to live with shame, physical or emotional.

You don’t have to:

• Stay quiet

• Power through

• Pretend nothing’s happening

• Accept leaking as your “forever”

• Feel embarrassed talking to your doctor

• Believe this is punishment or proof of inadequacy

God isn’t disappointed in your body.
He isn’t ashamed of you.
He cares about your physical healing just as much as your spiritual healing.

Faith Foundation: God Meets You in the Physical Too

One of the most powerful messages in this episode is the reminder that:

God cares about your body. Not just your spirit. Not just your mindset. Your physical body.

Your pelvic floor struggles don’t disqualify you. They don’t make you “less than.” They don’t change His love for you or His ability to restore your health.

This is not something you need to hide.
This is not something you need to feel embarrassed about.
This is not something you need to accept as your new identity.

You are not broken.
You are beloved.
And healing is absolutely possible.

Conclusion: You’re Not Stuck: You’re Stepping Into Healing

Pelvic floor issues are not embarrassing, hopeless, or permanent.
They are symptoms, not verdicts.

With the right information, safe strengthening steps, and a faith-filled perspective, you can:

• Understand what’s really going on inside your core

• Release the shame you’ve been carrying

• Strengthen your pelvic floor safely

• Restore confidence

• Support your health for years to come

This is dignity.
This is hope.
This is restoration.

And God cares about all of it.